How Boy-Crazy Are You?

How Boy-Crazy Are You?

Don’t think you’re boy-crazy? You just might be surprised.

Take the Boy-Crazy Quiz

Take the Boy-Crazy Quiz to find out where your focus is. Simply answer “yes” or “no” to these thirteen questions.

  1. In a room full of people, do you always know where “he” is? (yes/no)
  2. Are boys your number-one favorite topic of conversation with your friends? (yes/no)
  3. Do you often dress to catch a guy’s attention? (yes/no)
  4. Do you replace one crush with another almost as soon as you realize the first relationship is not going anywhere? (yes/no)
  5. Have you asked a guy out? (yes/no)
  6. Do you have your eye on more than one guy at a time? (yes/no)
  7. Do you believe you’d finally be completely happy if you had a boyfriend? (yes/no)
  8. Do you change your schedule or plans in order to bump into him? (yes/no)
  9. Do you tend to have more guy friends than girlfriends? (yes/no)
  10. When you’re relaxing with a good book, movie, or song, do you pick those that are filled with ooey-gooey romance? (yes/no)
  11. If you journal or pray, are your pages or prayers filled with thoughts and requests about guys? (yes/no)
  12. Are you always trying to figure out which guys like you? (yes/no)
  13. Would you be willing to get a total makeover for a guy? Not the hair, make-up, and new-clothes kind, but the “I’ll change who I am at my core if that’s what it takes to get you” kind? (yes/no)

Where to Go from Here

If you answered “yes” to several or all of these questions, that says something important about your heart. It clues you in to what your heart loves. What your heart fears, even. Do your answers point to you being more crazy about your Creator God or about guys?

Speaking from experience, boy-craziness is a road that will ultimately lead to heartache and loss (Ps. 16:4). True joy and freedom, on the other hand, are found in God’s presence (Ps. 16:11).

If you haven’t yet read my book, Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, I encourage you to order your copy today. If God can transform me, there’s hope for you for sure!

We’re giving away three copies of Confessions today. To enter to win one, log on to the giveaway widget and then leave a comment below by Valentine’s Day, letting me know what you learned from taking this quiz.

In the meantime, let’s continue this conversation. Over the next couple of days, we’re going to explore two questions:

  1. Is being boy-crazy really all that bad?
  2. I feel like boy-craziness is taking over. What can I do about it?

Stick with me as we journey together from neediness to freedom!

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  • Jessica Wichers

    I’m so glad this quiz caught my eye (re-tweeted by True Woman Movement) because I think I really need this book! My pride is telling me that I’m old enough that I should be past all this… But apparently he Holy Spirit nudges me and says I’m not. I’ve ordered the book for Kindle and can’t wait to read it on Sunday. Thanks for writing.

    • phendricks

      Dear Jessica, I love your sensitivity to God’s Spirit! Sure hope the book is a blessing. I’d love to hear what you thought of it if you have time.

  • Jaci McNamar

    I would definitely say my 18 y/o stepdaughter is boy crazy for her boyfriend (whom she says she doesn’t see as marrying material). She just started her first year of college & he has gone to another state for college. She stays up late talking to him on Skype when she has to get up at 4am for work (getting about 5-6 hrs of sleep). She then comes home & tries to sleep for about an hour or does the schoolwork she didn’t do the night before. Then goes to cross country practice (which she got a scholarship for), then takes night classes at the college. She gets home about 9:30 pm and the cycle starts over again. So of course she is constantly tired & we keep trying to tell her that it’s not good for her and to maybe schedule skyping with him when she doesn’t have to work the next day.
    Back in June she did a 2 week missions trip with our church youth group to Trinidad. The night before she left, my husband made dinner for all of us. She chose to spend her time with her boyfriend & his family eating pizza and didn’t come home until 9:15pm and my husband had to leave for work at 10pm. She had left the house about 3;30pm that day while my husband was sleeping & I was at work, so by the time she got home at night, he got to see her for about 5 minutes because he had to get ready for work. And she sees nothing wrong with this.
    After she graduated high school we eased up on some of our rules and after that, if she wasn’t at work, she spent most of her time with her boyfriend & his parents. To the point that her chores fell behind & we weren’t even sure if she was still part of this family. This boy doesn’t even want to get to know her side of the family, but she has even met his family that has come in from out of town. I keep telling her that he can’t be very serious if he isn’t “stepping into her world” but she keeps stepping into his. It just falls on deaf ears every time. It’s very frustrating because my husband gave up a 16 year military career when he got custody of her. And yes, we have spoken to her about this MANY times, but the boyfriend seems to come first (she says he doesn’t, but her actions say differently), even though she said she doesn’t see him in her future & she talks about his lack of intelligence. So I would say she IS very boy crazy.

  • Abigail Garcia

    I answered six yes’s… am I boy crazy…?

    • phendricks

      Hey, Abigail, It sounds likely, although I hate to make that call without knowing you! Ultimately, boy-craziness is a matter of the heart. In my book, “Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl,” I say that boy-craziness is really just girl-neediness. Have you read the book? That would probably help you answer your question. (Thanks for taking the quiz!)

  • Kris-tan Russell

    I answered six yes…….how bad am I?

    • phendricks

      Hey, Kris-tan,

      I can’t answer that question for ya . . . boy-craziness is ultimately a heart issue. I’d encourage you to read “Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl” if you haven’t already–that could help you see where you’re at and how to be free.

  • Amaris Watje

    Wow………this made me think. A lot. My friends say that I know too many guys. I would have to disagree. I know a lot of guys but not too many.

    • phendricks

      Hey, Amaris,

      I don’t think there’s anything wrong with “knowing” too many guys; it becomes a problem when we look to these guys to show us our worth, rather than to the God who gave His life for us when there was nothing lovely about us!

  • Kit-Kat Collins

    I need that book :/

    • phendricks

      Let me know if you want me to send you an autographed copy, Kit-Kat. I could give it to you for $10, and shipping would cost $2.72.

      • Kit-Kat Collins

        Will do!!!! I’ll ask my parents and see if it’s fine with them

  • Kenzie

    I’m not sure what wrong with me but ther is only one boy in my life i like and I literally can’t get him out of my head I’m mean we se each other at church all the time when I see him it’s like the whole world stops but I’m so confused about if he likes me or not I mean I’m to young to date but I mean I can’t get his face out of my head can u help me
    Ur he is only 16 and I’m 13

    • Dear Kenzie,

      Nothing is wrong with you except that you are likely idolizing this guy–“worshiping” him and “loving” him more than the one and only true God who deserves all of our affection.

      Have you had a chance to read my book, “Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom”? If not, can I encourage you to add it to your Christmas wish list? I think it’ll help.

      Praying for freedom for you now,


  • Jamie Bishop

    Over the last 2 years I’ve given this book to 3 girls that I have mentored, asking them to look at themselves differently than they have. I’ve read it twice for myself and continue to learn more about how I was created each time. I’d love to get a free copy of the book because I’ve now given all my copies away. Thank you Paula for writing about your journey and sharing with us that our identity belongs in Christ.

    • Dear Jamie,

      Wow. Thank you so much for intentionally investing in the girls around you, and thank you for giving them a copy of my book. What an incredible blessing you are.

  • Jess

    I tried to post a comment earlier, but I’m not sure I did it correctly, so I’ll try again!😊
    I would love to win a copy of this book! I stumbled onto this blog a few months ago, and it has been a blessing. I have wonderful parents who have done their best to teach my sister and I not to be boy crazy, forward, and flirty young ladies. I am grateful to God for them! They have taught us to be patient and wait on God. (but it is easy to be impatient with the Lord when we feel he isn’t moving fast enough. Oh, to just trust Him and relax about it!) But I still said yes to about 3 of the questions and I know that I have the heart issue even though I do not exhibit outward traits of boy craziness. I am almost 21 and although it is kinda “weird” to most to have never had a boy friend or special guy friend by my age, I am grateful I have been spared the heart ache that goes along with trying out tons of guys instead of waiting for God to orchestrate His plan in His time. If I do not win your book, I hope to purchase a copy. Can’t wait! Thank you for helping so many young ladies.

    • Dear Jess,

      You are one mature lady. I’m proud of you for realizing you have a heart issue even if you don’t exhibit outward traits of boy-craziness. God can do a lot with that realization and desire to cooperate with Him in transforming you from the inside out!

      My hubby didn’t date anyone ’til me (we started dating when he was 26 or 27). What an incredible gift for me!

      I’m grateful that you are grateful for your parents. 🙂 Mine, too, spared me a lot of heartache.

      Thanks for following this blog. It was a blessing to me to hear from you this morning!

      Did I say I was proud of you?! 😉

      Glad you commented,


      • Jess

        Thank you for your sweet word! You are an encouragement to me!

  • Leah

    I definitely struggle with being boy-crazy and your book has been really helpful. I would really love to win a second copy to share with some of the young ladies in my life!

    • I love it that you’re thinking of other young women in your life, Leah, and wanting to pass this book on to them. I want that kind of heart!

  • Lydia White

    I hate to say it but I do deal with being boy crazy here and there. I try to hide it. This year more and more of my mentors have noticed it though. Honestly I do want to overcome it though. My mom and dad have raised me not to be. I habe neen looking for a book like this to read with my sister.

    • Dear Lydia,

      What a gift that your mentors have noticed. Power is broken when things are out in the light; I’d encourage you not to try to hide it anymore. Seek help from these women; God really does offer freedom!

      So glad you commented,


  • KatelynS

    There was a point a few month ago, when I was boy crazy; but I found out it was just emotionally draining! Does he like me? Does he not? Those questions were constantly in my mind…

    Thank you for this quiz! I will be coming back to it often to “check” myself! 😉

  • Maria Hutchins

    I never really thought I was the boy crazy type, but when I honestly answered the boy crazy quiz, I realized I “crush” on guys a lot more than is good for me. Good reality check.

  • Zoe Ward

    I have been feeling dejected and insecure lately because I cannot find a kind, Christian guy who returns my affections. I have been asking God a lot of questions. Is it me? Am I too young? Is the guy just not right? Any tips?